They say women first start planning their weddings when they’re little girls. They grab their mom’s dress and shoes to begin the visualization of their Prince Charming. They’ll wait until mom is cooking to apply some makeup and spritz on the perfume. Is there a stand-in for the meantime? Well … whoever is available to stand in for him to get the ball rolling will work just fine. Why hello there, Mr. Teddy Ruxpin! You look handsome today! I don’t remember ever playing dress up wedding as a child though. Now that I’ve found my Sir Daniel, I wonder if I should have started planning then. When is too early to start planning your wedding?
Some people start the planning process when they meet the one they think they’ll spend the rest of their lives with. They start flipping through bridal magazines and ripping out things that they like. They look for any upcoming bridal show to give them ideas of how they want their big day to be. I wasn’t one of those ladies though. Well I was but not right away. In the beginning of my relationship with Daniel I was in a “is this really happening” phase. I was excited. I was counting down the minutes until I’d see him again. I was floating on a cloud. Have you ever tried to think of planning a wedding AND float on a cloud at the same time? I don’t recommend it.
It was maybe three years into us dating that I started envisioning what would transpire on our wedding day. I went to a small bridal show in Norwalk to do research. I was going to write about my findings but I was so overwhelmed with the stack of brochures I collected that I left it in a pile in the corner of my bedroom to sort through ….later. I did stock up on wedding planning books when the Border’s Bookstore in Fairfield closed. I remember the woman who checked me out asked if I was getting married. I shook my head and smiled, no I’m just starting the planning. I figure women get so stressed out with the planning of the wedding that I don’t want that to be my experience. She told me I was smart. I would agree if I had actually started flipping through the books. You already know I’m a procrastinator …so you know how that goes.
Since that day in the bookstore I’ve put aside money each month for the future wedding. I ripped out a page or two of a magazine and put it up on my cork board. I’ve pinned ideas on the wedding rehearsal dinner, bachelorette party ideas, wedding reception ideas, wedding ceremony ideas, ring band ideas, food ideas, appetizers for cocktail hour …I can keep going. Did I mention that I was a procrastinator? Over the last couple of years I’ve pinned over 1000 ideas on 30+ Wedding Themed boards.
What I would like to start planning now is the honeymoon. I’d like to start budgeting for it. I figure that the rest of the stuff needs me to know a lot of the variables in play first. I haven’t gotten the official asking of my hand in marriage yet. I know you were going to ask, right? The honeymoon would require some laziness, sun, Piña Coladas, our bathing suits and plenty of sunscreen. Or it could go in an entirely different direction… If I had my way. LOL
Do YOU think its TOO early to start planning if you haven’t been asked yet?
BONUS Honeymoon question for you today: To my married couples, where did you go? Did you have a blast? To my singles, where do you plan on going? Let me know in the comments below or take the survey!
Planning in the meantime …Until then,