Why wait for the New Year to start working on you?

I was reading my email the other day and found a friend of mine had started a blog series called 30 Days to a Stellar You!  Every day there is a new post of a new assignment that gets you really thinking about ceating the life we all think about when we’re making our New Year’s Resolution list.  She wants you to think of it as free coaching in a blog.  Who doesn’t love free? 

I personally have had a few coaching sessions with her and I thought she was awesome and I got results.  If you were ever thinking about it, she’s the woman to get in touch with. 

SO…start your list early, start day 15 of the month taking charge on this THERAPEUTIC THURSDAY!!  YAY YOU!  I’m starting it today and I’ll be posting my progress on Facebook.  If you don’t follow me yet feel free to check me out, My Pockeful of Thoughts! 

Check out the blog series 30 Days to a Stellar You!

Until then,

What’s sucking your time?

What is sucking your time?
TV is sucking my time :/

It was the best of times and the worst of times.  Last September I caved in and got the DVR from my cable provider. The DVR opened up an entirely different world for me, and after a while I realized I wasn’t doing much else. Every now and then I think to myself that it was the worst decision I could have made. I was perfectly fine with the handful of channels that Cablevision was providing without the cable box. Friends promoting it and the extra five dollars for the box enticed me though. What is an extra five dollars anyways?

A year later and now its an extra ten dollars a month, but I do not think I have the will power to give it up. Back in September and into October I cut my watching the DVR down to an hour a day to study for an exam. The shows I recorded piled up and til this day I have not caught up. This is sadly what I have been doing with my time. Instead of picking up my lap top and writing about all the ideas I say in my head, I watch the DVR. I find myself feeling nervous if I let too many shows stay without being watched. I freak out a little if I cannot find another time listing for a show that happens to fall under the same time as two other shows being recorded. This past weekend I finally made a dent in it and discovered some new shows that I really liked.Instead of feeling sad about getting the DVR, I decided I would make this an Ode to all the talented writers out there that keep me hooked to the TV like an addict. One day I’ll give it up, but right now I’m not ready.

So shows that started this season that I am excited to watch:
Once Upon a Time Terra Nova Ringer Revenge Hart of Dixie Two Broke Girls

Returning Shows that I love:
Bones Covert Affairs Modern Family Happy Endings Blue Bloods Sons of Anarchy Psych Vampire Diaries Nikita Super Natural Grey’s Anatomy Private Practice Body of Proof Mike & Molly Hawaii 5-0 The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills The Nate Berkus Show Ugly Betty Burn Notice NCIS NCIS Los Angeles

Shows that are on break:
Pretty Little Liars The Nine Lives of Chloe King Suits Royal Pains In Plain Sight White Collar Fairly Legal The Closer Rizzoli and Isles – Jersey Shore – Falling SkiesLeverage

Shows that are on my DVR that I still have not watched yet:
GRIMM PAN AM Secret Circle 

I do NOT want to even count how many shows this is and I am more than sure there are shows that I have forgotten to mention; The shows that were recently canceled or were canceled on my DVR myself have shortened my list. I didn’t give any info, aside from the name, on any of the shows because you’d be reading FOREVER, so if you see something that sounds good to you, just click on the show name and it will take you to where you can get more information.

So again, Today I am thankful for all the creative writers out there that keep me addicted to their shows and keep me waiting for the next episode to happen! I find it therapeutic to escape reality for a few minutes or in my case hours a day. What shows can you not live without?  What do you self prescribe for therapy purposes?

 

Until then,
don’t judge me :)

 

Are we doing everything we can be doing to make ourselves happy?

Happy Almost Friday to you!  I wanted to start the day off by asking a few questions, directed to you and to myself.  Are we doing everything we can be doing to make ourselves happy?  Now this is a very loaded question!  What makes us happy?  If I wake up in the morning with a smile on my face and an excitement to start the day and take on the world, I would define that as happy.  Except that I haven’t felt that in a little while.

Life has a tendency to throw apples and oranges at us.  We slip, fall down to the ground and the direction we go in when we get back up has changed. At least that is how I see it.  It doesn’t have to be that way and I know it.  Sometimes we forget that we’ve done the research and have already figured out what makes us happy;  Whether it is in the moment we are in or we know what to do to get there.  So if you happen to be on my bus going to Happyville or have already reached your destination by all means share what you are doing!  If you are not sure or have come to a crossroads, you can share that to.  It is never to late to get a ticket for the bus.

I have always been an avid reader.  Over the last twelve years or so I have amassed a collection of books from people who have gotten to a success in life that made them happy and have shared their stories.  I am currently working on tackling Procrastination. I want to leave you today with something I read in ‘Eat That Frog: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time.’ by Brian Tracy.  If you are not familiar with Brian Tracy, he was in sales, made it big and applied the principals he learned to everything in life and now he’s bigger.  The great thing is you do not have to be in sales to take away from this book. 

“The Power of Written Goals…When I could no longer find a laboring job, I got into sales, knocking on doors, working on straight commission.  I struggled from sale to sale until I began looking around me and asking, “Why is it that other people are doing better than I am?”
Then I did something that changed my life.  I began to ask successful people what they were doing that enabled them to be more productive and earn more money than me.  And they told me.  I did what they advised me to do, and my sales went up.  Eventually, I became so successful that I was made a sales manager….
This process of learning and applying what I had learned changed my life.  I am still amazed at how simple and obvious it is.  Just find out what other successful people do and do the same things until you get the same results.  Learn from the experts. Wow! What an idea.” – Eat That Frog
Wow! is right!  Mind you, that kind of information starts in the preface, so you can imagine how the rest of the book is.  I am excited to read it and excited to share my thoughts with you!  Is procrastination one of the things that holds you back from doing things that might make you happy?  Pick up the book, you might read something that turns a light bulb on.  Amazon has it for 9.03 and if you spend $25 you get free shipping. 
I had the honor of meeting Bran Tracy at his seminar.
If you see someone that makes you say, “I want to be doing that!”;  Ask them what they do and how they did it.  Most people love to share their story.  You never know it could lead you to Happyville! 
Until then,

What’s on your affirmation list?

How are you on this marvelous Thursday?  I am grateful that it is ALMOST FRIDAY!! WOOHOOO!  But on a serious note, have you given the affirmations a try, if you’ve never done them before?  Are you waking up and being grateful for all the things you have, all the things you are, and all the things to come?  Are you saying to yourself right now, that I’m a little crazy?  Hey, that’s ok!  You are entitled to your own opinion.  However, it is none of my business what you think of me :)  Maybe you’ll change your mind once you get to hear examples of the things that I wrote out, on a daily basis when I would first wake up in the morning, in the weeks to come. I have found that reminding yourself of all the things you want to be directs you on your path of what you will be; of what you already are.

I have to say, after starting them up again, it changes the way I see the day.  I seem to smile more and laugh more.  I get this calm sense of purpose with a side of giddiness.  Waking up with an attitude of gratitude, seems to change the way I see the world, and I like it!   I’m excited to hear all about how affirmations are going for you, so feel free to drop in a line in a comment.

Stay Tuned for this coming Story Time Saturday, where I share with you a technique in a variation of affirmations that is just as powerful as writing them out every day. It’ll show you how to change things up from time to time.

Until then
djrelat7

What’s going through your mind?…Inquiring minds want to know!

On this gorgeous Wednesday morning, I ask you What Is UP With YOU!!?  What are the thoughts you had when you first woke up this morning?  Were you thankful for waking up, getting to experience a new day and excited to find all of life’s surprises?   OR were you annoyed that the alarm went off, you realize you set it WAY to early and now you can’t fall back to sleep so you’re going to lie in bed with a face on because in a few moments you have to go to work and you DON’T WANT TO?  I am the latter.  The remote control might make it better except that its too far from the bed so I can’t escape at the moment to join all of my favorite dvr’d characters.  It wasn’t always this way though for me.  That is not to say that I am not grateful for waking up today, but I’m not entirely sure I’m excited for what the day has in store for me.

A few years back, I definitely would have responded LOUD AND CLEAR with the first option.  I was the energetic, in your face (politely, cause I love my personal space to) let’s take on the world and set it on fire just to see the pretty lights, and was SUPER excited about the day to come.  It was because I was focused.  Nowadays I am a little scattered, nothing wrong with that, except that I don’t feel like me anymore.  So I have been thinking, what did I do back then, that I don’t do now, that reminded me of the awesome person I am and of all the great things to come?  One word comes to mind: AFFIRMATIONS!

Webster says:

Main Entry: af·fir·ma·tion 
Pronunciation: \ˌa-fər-ˈmā-shən\
Function: noun
Date: 15th century

1 a : the act of affirming b : something affirmed : a positive assertion

hmmm, ok what is to affirm?

Main Entry: af·firm 
Pronunciation: \ə-ˈfərm\
Function: verb
Etymology: Middle English affermen, from Anglo-French afermer, from Latin affirmare, from ad- + firmare to make firm, from firmus firm — more at firm
Date: 14th century

transitive verb 1 a : validate, confirm b : to state positively ed his innocence>
2 : to assert (as a judgment or decree) as valid or confirmed
3 : to express dedication to
intransitive verb 1 : to testify or declare by affirmation as distinguished from swearing an oath

I used to do mental and written affirmations.  I would write them out first in the morning and again when I went to sleep.  Having written reminders of your strengths and working on your weaknesses, it definitely makes for a mentally strong person.

So, now that Webster expressed to you what I mean by affirmations, I will let it sit and marinate.  You might be doing affirmations already and that is awesome!  Hit me up and maybe you can share it with everyone in a blog :)   This will be a recurring theme throughout the next months, making for a strong minded you, specifically me, but you to if you want to come along for the ride, so STAY TUNED and look for Affirmations!

Until then
djrelat7

Divorced, in the process or thinking of it?

Once upon a time, people got married and divorce was never uttered.  You stuck it out, through thick and thin, regardless of any situation that arose.  ‘Til death do us part was taken literally.  Today, the times have changed!  I, one day, will marry the man of my dreams and we will live happily ever after with our 8 kids on our farm house in the country.  But not every marriage ends with a happy ending.  Sometimes I think divorce is too easy to get done these days, but sometimes there are legitimate reasons to push those papers along.

Now when we take those vows and say I do, we don’t plan on getting a divorce.  We don’t do research in advance of what to do if we have to begin that process or how its supposed to work after all the damage is done.  There are currently some programs in place to help you along that are put in place once the papers are filed.  But wouldn’t it be nice if you had a guide, or like a divorce Godmother?

Well, a few years ago, at a networking event, I came across a table advertising a website that is essentially a guide of what to expect and how to get through a divorce. divorce360.com is a clear and informative site that helps the process out :)  Feel free to pass it along and check it out so you can have a few words to describe it in case you know someone in need of it.

Until then
djrelat7


“divorce360.com provides helpadvice and community
for people contemplating, going through or recovering from divorce and
the issues around it – custody, child support, alimony and litigation.”

16 seconds straight…

We’re a day short of the weekend and if that makes you sad, smile for 16 seconds straight.  The studies show that smiling for that length of time sends neurotransmitters to your brain signaling that you are in a good mood.  If the 16 seconds are done and you’re still in a funk on this terrific Thursday, shoes might cheer you up.  Yes you to fellas!  Don’t shake your head, I think guys are just as crazy about clothes and shoes as us ladies.  A trip to a very far mall to acquire a pair of $90 shoes confirms my answer…for whom I went, his name will remain nameless :)

Shoes for less…Payless….This is by far not an official advertisement for Payless, but I figured their email to me got my attention when it featured their Summer 2010 Designer Collection.  So the shopaholic in me will tell you to wait for their B1G1 1/2 Price Sale but in the meantime pick out the ones you like :)

For Women these caught my eye (Clicking on the links will bring you to a visual aid):

Scalloped Peep-Toe Pump by Christian Siriano for Payless – Christian Siriano has a FIERCE sense, while keeping it simple.  I have a pair that he did during the fall for payless and they were SUPER high and SUPER cute :)

Anise Bow Flat by zoe&zac – These look SUPER COMFY! 

Wait for It Sandal by Montego Bay Club These look SUPER FUN! 

Rope Wedge Sandal by Dexter – These look like they’d be perfect for my feet in Mexico :)

Neilson Bow Flat Lela Rose for Payless –These are cute for a night out with the girls :)

 Fellas not sure what your taste is but here is the link to the men’s section on the Payless site AND there is a sale :)  Go to Men’s Shoes

If shoes do not cheer you up try the smiling thing again! Let me know if it works for you and what other things you do to get yourself in a gooooooooooood mood.

Until then
djrelat7